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Real Dutch Men Don't Marry Losers

Tons of clueless hags age 30-and-over are out there, lonely as hell, desperate, and pitifully waiting and waiting for their ship to sail in. They cry themselves to sleep every night wondering why they can’t find a DECENT man, when they don’t know a thing about how to properly conduct themselves or govern their own lives. They’ve still got a lot of growing up to do because they’re still doing the things they did as young girls with fake IDs and perkier breasts. Except now they look like a nightmarish pile of used up dog crap, especially to him, post-beer goggles the morning after.

It didn’t work for you then and it really isn’t going to work for you now.

I’ll make it a bit easier on you by telling you what kind of woman a good man will marry as opposed to what kind he won’t. Maybe you’ll get a clue and make a needed life change.

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• A good Dutch man will not marry a woman who doesn’t have a backbone.

A quality man will seek out a quality woman, who has enough integrity in her to stand up and stand for what she believes in, even to him. A good man of strong character often has a firm set of principles that he himself will not compromise and he often seeks out the same principles in a woman. He wants a woman who says what she means, and means what she says and has her own mind to make up for herself.

He doesn’t want a little girl for whom he must make all the decisions and has to raise from the ground up, nor does he want your emotional and psychological baggage. He hopes that you’ve by now graduated to womanhood and long left behind the sniveling and the whining, as well as the diapers and the butt wipes. Grow up and be a woman and he might actually believe that you are one.

• A good Dutch man will not marry the club skank who drinks like a fish.

A quality man wants a woman he can gladly bring home to his mother, proudly introduce to his friends, and sees himself raising a family with (if he so chooses). When was the last time you ever heard of a real-life “Pretty Woman” story in which a smart, established, successful man fell head-over-heels in love with a prostitute/escort/alcoholic/drug addicted club skank? Try never.

Quality men require a higher degree of decorum that can’t be found passed out in shoddy back alleys behind dive bars. By the way, who ever said it was hot to get so trashed that you don’t even realize there are nude pictures of you all over the internet peeing in a sink and deep-throating a beer bottle? Get some effing class for Pete’s sake. You look like a foolish pig.

• A good Dutch man will not marry a woman who is lacking in substance.

This is to say that a good man will not marry a woman who has nothing more to bring to the table than looks or sex appeal. Your fake hair color and your best fellatio technique alone aren’t going to keep him interested for very long.

A quality, down-to-earth good-guy wants to know that you can carry on a reasonable conversation about important real life issues when necessary, and can manage your own affairs and value your own independence. He wants a woman who has interests that enhance her life outside of her romantic relationships.

He also doesn’t want someone who has only the brain capacity to discuss which celeb is boinking which celeb or which color handbag goes best with your toenail polish. In other words, you should know more than what the average moron doesn’t. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that the ditsy bubble-headed Jessica Rabbit thing gets old real quick.

• A good Dutch man will not marry a woman who won’t offer him a challenge.

When I speak in terms of a challenge, I mean that he won’t marry someone who is so easy to get. And this applies to everything. So don’t be so quick to give him sex, gifts, love, home-cooked meals, an ego boost, etc. A good, hardworking man wants what he has to work harder to get. He instinctively wants to earn it and only then should he deserve it. The old saying here applies “Anything worth having doesn’t come easy”. In other words, don’t be so conventional. Don’t be so easy as to lay up or down with him and allow him to call all the shots.

Above all, never let him assume that you’ll be there whenever and however and be whoever he wants you to be, simply because it suits him and his needs. When you become too predictable and dependable, it indirectly gives him a green light to take you for granted and therefore, take you less seriously as a girlfriend or wife. Disregarding your own values as a person will keep you in the “let’s just be friends” zone, FOREVER.

You must always consider your needs and desires first and then decide how you will secondarily meet and accommodate his needs. If you think highly in terms of yourself, your time and your worth as a woman, he too, will be forced to see you as someone so much more valuable and worthwhile.

• A good Dutch man will not marry a woman who doesn’t teach him more about himself and the kind of man he aspires to be.

Men always say “when the right woman comes along someday, I could see myself doing X, Y and Z”. That should tell you that you, as a woman, should bring a lot of value into his life by showing him what he has yet to realize. Men are quite simple in that they only want a woman who will make him feel good about who he is as a man. She should enhance his life by encouraging him and making him feel good about his accomplishments.

She should make him feel special, important and unique in his own right but she should do so without giving too much of herself away. Just the simple act of you telling him a different colored tie would look fantastic with his favorite shirt could be enough for him to see himself in a new and brighter light. When the right woman comes along, she teaches him things he never thought possible. And he’ll never want to let you go when you show him how good you can make him feel about himself.

With that said, it’s also safe to say that on the other side of that spectrum, he doesn’t want a woman who will constantly nag, belittle, and criticize him like those nasty hags whose husbands are never around. Consider that for a moment…Would you want to spend your life with someone who constantly tells you that you and the traits that make you an individual person are never good enough in even the slightest way? My money says you’d be quick to get the eff out before someone gets shot.

Good men want what any good woman wants- that is to live decent, productive, and reasonably uncomplicated lives and still be fortunate enough to have someone special to share them with. They don’t want women who think only of themselves, who cannot be fun and inspiring, and cannot be a reliable source of love and support. They want a good woman, who represents class, sophistication and self-worth. Men want women they can be proud of, who will add balance to their lives in ways that compliment them as men, as fathers, as husbands, and as human beings.

How will you do that?